Go West Young Man….

Earlier in my post, I wrote about a college professor with a penchant for being dominated… I mentioned how she went kinda wacko on me…well, in the subsequent days…she has been “on me” to visit her…I caved to my carnal desire and took a trip out west…. and I’m glad I did….

For the last three days…I may have seen all of three hours outside of a bed room….her bed room…..When she wasnt begging to be shackled to her bed…she was begging to serve me breakfast lunch and dinner in bed….Nirvanna!!!!

I mentioned that she had toys….but I had NO idea the kind of collection she had at home…. it was enough to make Larry Flint blush…. from paddles to butt plugs..she had it all…. and wanted them all used on her at the same time…. I was impressed..

So what made this a sophisticated date? She did!!

She is classy, beautiful, intelligent, well dressed California body and tan… if you saw this woman on the street you would nod your head in approval, because of her style and the way she carries it off….. but you would never think that she has the sexual taste of video vixen…. which is what makes this all the more sophisticated and intriguing…..  I will write a little later about a date I had recently with a statuesqe blonde woman, who just oozes sex appeal…she knows it…and she knows that you know it…. you would expect this woman to have the bed room antics Belladonna….. but you wouldnt necessarily expect that of the well dressed college professor….

 She has already sent me a plane ticket to visit her again….however, before you begin to think I’m saying these nice things about this woman because she is also serving as my travel agent….you’re only partially correct….I did have an awfully good time with her as well…..so.. who ever said “Go west young man” knew what the hell they were talking about….

You must be kidding?

 Now that you know a little about me… let me tell you what it’s been like for me in the “dating game” the last few weeks

I’ve been getting pummeled… slashed, kicked, battered and tossed around like wet towels in a dryer…. and the ironic thing…I dont know what in the hell to do about it.

 On-line dating- I belong to a national on line dating service and over the last 12 weeks or so I have probably sent  out maybe 70 inquires or so.  My profile included several pictures, is well thought out and written…. when sending letters of interest to women I find attractive, I mention what attracted me to their profiles and what I think we share in common…. I tell a little about myself and suggest that if they have interest, please drop me a note…. so what is my response rate? ………..less than 1 in 7…. more like .5 in 7

I’ve  asked other men and women to read my profile, look at my pictures and make suggestions as to what I should change….. no one can seem to understand why I’m not out on the town every night….

So you can imagine my excitement a couple of weeks ago, when I received an unsolicited email from a very attractive woman from the west coast. She was a college professor at a well known California school. This Phd of science had contacted me because she read my profile and became intrigued….. and to make matters even more exciting…she was actually from the part of the country where I’m currently living and was planning a trip home and would like to meet for drinks…. for the next 10 days we chatted on line or by phone virtually everyday…. she was obviously very intelligent, had lived abroad for a time and was currently working on another degree while teaching…. she was somewhat mysterious, which made me even more anxious to meet her… and after several chats…as these things are want to do..the subject turned to sex… now, I’m no prude…far from it…. but this lady had me sitting up at attention…with her interest, fetishes and zest for exploration….

She told me that most men, when they reached this point of discussion, talk a good game….but historically failed to deliver. I made no promises other than I wasnt about to run away…so she began to explain her bi sexuality and her interest in being dominated…. and how since her divorce more than a dozen years ago,  she  has actually lived with  two women and has not met a man that she could completly be herself with…. ( was that a challenge?)…she explained that men would coax stories and fantasies from her but when it  came time  to actually “put up or shut up”….these poor bastards would limp away..muttering under their breath….. and it wasnt because she was a bedroom porn star…it was always that they would over promise and under deliver….. i took that cue…and made no promises, pronouncements or proclamations…. other than I was looking forward to her arrival….

When the day finally arrived she was as beautiful as her pictures…perhaps even more so… she stood 5′3″, perhaps a size 4, full natural breast, and a California tan and body… I was stunned….this couldnt be the same woman who just a few days earlier told me that she longed to be handcuffed and spanked….. and while at dinner she told me that she had brought me a surprise…… I was afraid to ask….. she said that instead of bringing a carry on to the plane, she checked her bags…(plural)… she then described in great detail, the assortment of whips, riding crops,cuffs, lubes, jells and other apparatuses..I never even knew existed that she brought with her on her visit…

 I must have looked like that kid from the movie “Home Alone”…my mouth wide open and hands to my cheeks…but no sound coming out….. for the next two and half days….I would have put the marquis de sade to shame……..i didnt know i had it in me….. she got back on the plane for California begging me to visit her…. and I must admit that I wanted to be packed away in her luggage…I had fallen love the with toys she let me play with…. a week passed and we were already making plans for my visit out west….. plane tickets purchased, evenings planned and descriptions of toys to large to get in a suitcases were dancing in my head…

two days before boarding..we are on line chatting for three hours….she is telling me about the bi-sexual friend of hers she wanted me to meet…. what she wanted me to do to both of them and I start having heart palpitations…. it was getting late here..and she suggested that I go ahead to bed….and while I wasnt really tired… I agreed.. we said our good nights and she was off….

Not more than 2 minutes later..an IM pops up from her…..” I see you’re good at multi-tasking”….I  type her..”what are you talking about?”…no response….. 30 seconds later…. “so what other women are you chatting with?”…I ask again…”what are you talking about?”..again… no response ….. another 30 seconds and then all hell brakes loose….I’m assaulted with a verbal barrage of expletives, threats and ultimatums…. and then finally told not even think about coming out to California and “forget you even know my name”…..you could have knocked me over with a feather….. what the fuck just happened?

Turns out that before we began chatting that evening…I was checking to see if i had received any mail from the site where we met…and her IM poped up and I never logged out…. so I was on the site before, during and after our three hour chat….she assumed that I was chatting with other women during our conversation….

When I found out what she was so upset about… I became incensed… I thought that I left that kind of behavior behind in high school…here was an educated, beautiful, worldly woman actting like a scorned 16 year old at the prom…why was it ok for her to be on the site but I couldnt? When did this relationship become exclusive?…and I shuttered to think if she on the site to spy on me…… so my last comment to her was….. “I agree, forget you even know my name” 

I cant be the only one out here!!!

I’ve been  a very successful attorney …. I have had a career, most could only dream of.  I now own my own successful business.

I’m normally attracted to women who are strong, independent, sexy, intelligent, classy, stylish, romantic, sensual and that are NOT high maintence…….  tall, petite, atheletic, curvy, slender, toned……any nationality, ethnicity, religion, creed or color…they could be striking beauties or cute with their own sense of style…

I have been around the world on a number of occasions, attended state dinners in foreign capitals, been invited to white house functions ( not during the present administration, thank god), visited former presidents in the oval office, sat in board rooms across from and have worked with captains of industry and have executed world class sports and entertainment events….

I’m middle aged but dont carry the baggage normally associated with a man of such age….( no spare tire, no alimony, no child support etc.)….I’m 6 ft 2in…212 ibs…I work out daily and would be considered by most as not  being too bad on the eyes…financially secure… enjoy the finer things in life but not at the expense of missing the simple pleasures that life produces daily… I live in a upscale locale..drive nice vehicles

 I’m sophisticated, well dressed, well read and can carry on conversations from the religious differences in the Sunni and Shia sects of islam to the pros and cons of tony romo and jessica simpson’s break up….what?..you mean you didnt know?

…..and no I’m not an ass, jerk, hot head, self centered or any of the other adjective normally associated with being an attorney…

I’m not a “player”, I dont hate women and my parents didnt abuse me as a child….

I would guess by most standards a guy with that kind of resume…. you would invest 45 min in a starbucks conversation..right?

So why cant I find a date?

I cant be the only one out here with this kind of a problem…..great resume, no job!!!

There has GOT to be something wrong with this guy…..right?

Well dear reader…you tell me!!!!

Over the days, weeks and gawd lets hope not years….I share with you my experinces…you give me your opinion…..

Oh…..I guess I should add, because for some of you this will make a difference, I’m also africam american….